A few years ago this cousin worked on the same crew as my husband, Joseph. One day when he was off by himself in a room, the cousin walked in. She didn't look all that good..as if she was on the verge of a very bad headache. Joseph got her to sit down for a minute and asked her what was wrong. She was very stressed as the job she did involved dealing the the public and also the rest of the crew. He put his arm around her and told her to not let things get to her.
It wasn't long and he was called to the bridge. The captain said he had been accused of sexual harassment. Joseph was floored! He had offered her a bit of support and she had twisted it into something nasty! He did not lose his job, but was "written up" for it.
Shortly after that, I heard different people saying that she had said she had "been mistaken" and "it didn't happen"...as in, there was no harassment. But she was never disciplined for making a false statement. Thankfully Joseph has a wonderful reputation and no one believed it. Several women on both crews came to him and said they didn't believe it...and they said some very "not so nice" things about his accuser.
Today she sent me a friend request on Facebook! I couldn't believe it. So, me, being the polite one chose to write her a private message letting her know that if the situation was reversed, and it was me accusing her husband, she would certainly never accept a friendship request from me! Not that I would ever put her in that position in the first place.
Granted, I have been polite toward her over the years and have never brought the subject up when she has spoken to me, but when she sent that friend request...well she opened herself up to a whole can of trouble. I wasn't mean. I was not nasty. I just told her that I didn't believe the accusations then, nor did I believe it now and that I would not, nor could I accept her friend invitation.
I still can't believe she even put me in the situation where I would be saying NO.
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